FOMO

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Fear of Missing Out

If you didn’t know what FOMO meant and you’re freaking out because you’re SO behind the curve, this blog’s for you.

5 Steps to Manage your FOMO Affliction

  1. Acknowledge it’s not a fear, it’s a fact.
    You ARE missing out on something ALWAYS. Right this minute while you’re reading this blog an infinite number of things is happening that you’re not part of.
  2. Acknowledge that your purpose in life is not to do EVERYTHING
    You are here to live YOUR life, which is a product of your choices and the things you decide NOT to miss out on. You can’t join every club, attend every talk, be at every party, fundraise for every NGO, be friends with every person in your dorm, take every class, major in every discipline, or be a biomedical astronaut pro bono attorney who runs an art gallery and a solar panel construction business. You just can’t.
  3. Remember whose life you’re living.
    And have some faith that the choices you make are fine ones.

 

Why is writing so hard?

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If you give a mouse/brain a cookie

Brains thrive on feedback. Give a brain a cookie (via your mouth & tastebuds) brain says “YUM, more please.” The feedback loop is instantaneous: taste, texture, response, thought all flow quickly. Or touch a hot pan – brain says “OUCH, stay back.” Even when you are doing something like programming, or even solving a math problem, though it’s not instantaneous, the feedback loop is relatively quick in telling you if you’ve gone fair or foul.

The information you see from the work you’ve done tells you pretty quickly whether or not you’re headed in the right direction. If there’s success, your brain incorporates this information and allows you to do the next thing. And if there’s failure, your brain adjusts and recalibrates your strategy.

But with writing, the feedback loop is way longer. You may not figure out what you’re trying to say until sentences, paragraphs, even pages later. You may not even get feedback in the form of objective comments from your instructor for days or weeks (or months if you’re working on an honors thesis). It can be hard to convince your brain to keep plugging away when there’s no reinforcement that says “YUM” or “OUCH.”

That’s why writing can be hard. You feel like you’re wandering around and you don’t know if you’re in the right place. So what to do?

  1. Be patient
  2. Ask your friends to think/talk through your ideas
  3. Read what you’ve written aloud to see if your ears can make sense of it
  4. Recalibrate your pace – not all good things in life are fast

Showing Yourself: A Welcome to Stanford

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For the last 17+ years you have been showing the world your best self. Your A+ transcripts are only the beginning of the list. Shall we discuss your leadership on the field, in the classroom, onstage, or in your community? That would just be overkill.We have seen the intelligent and infallible you since you were born. We all know your vocabulary as a child consisted of 6 syllable scientific terms. And yes, you did know Atomic Numbers by the time you were 2.
You’ve shown your family, friends, classmates, teammates, teachers, advisors, counsellors, mentors, competitors, and frenemies your best self. Heck, the entire Stanford Office of Admissions has seen your best self too. The world has been privy to a particular kind of you for a very long time.

Now that you are here at Stanford, take the opportunity to breathe and be YOU. Instead of always showing up with your best self, show us your true self. Friendships will be easier to make and confidence better to find. The performances are only there when you encourage their existence. There doesn’t have to be a show. You, in your truest form, is enough to keep us captivated.

So this year:

  • Try different things because you want to, not because you feel the need to impress or answer to anyone.
  • Open yourself up to be vulnerable with others; share yourself and your story with people around you.
  • Be unafraid of expressing your opinion, instead of simply admiring the other person who does.
  • Embrace all of you (and yes, that includes your imperfections too).

Have a wonderful year, being yourself.

Welcome to Stanford.