Sam Wopat memorial details announced

Editor’s note: See the first Daily post on this subject here.

Samantha “Sam” Wopat ’14, a member of the women’s volleyball team, died Sunday, March 25, at Stanford Hospital following a weeklong battle in the intensive care unit. Wopat was hospitalized Saturday, March 17, after attempting suicide in her Suites residence.

“We are deeply saddened by the passing of Sam Wopat,” said Bob Bowlsby, director of Stanford Athletics in a University statement. “She was an integral member of the Stanford Athletics family and a tremendous student and athlete. On behalf of our administration, coaches and students I extend my condolences to Sam’s siblings, parents, relatives and friends. Stanford University and the Women’s Volleyball program have lost a wonderful young woman.”

Samantha "Sam" Wopat, an outside hitter on the women's volleyball team, died in Stanford Hospital on March 25. (Courtesy of Stanford Athletics)

Wopat is survived by her parents, Ron and Kathy Wopat of Santa Barbara, Calif.; her twin sister, Carly Wopat ’14, also on the Stanford women’s volleyball team; and two younger brothers, Jackson and Eli.

A memorial service for Wopat will be held at 1:30 p.m. in Memorial Church on Wednesday, April 18.

As a high school student Wopat played track and field, basketball and volleyball at Dos Pueblos High School in Goleta, Calif. She was planning to complete a major in English with an emphasis on creative writing, according to an October interview with The Daily.

Wopat joined the Stanford women’s volleyball team as an outside hitter in 2010, though her athletic success began much earlier. She participated on three U.S. Junior Olympics teams from 2006-08, competed in the World Championships as a member of the U.S. Youth National team and played in the 2010 U.S. Women’s Junior National Team.

The Charger Account – the student newspaper at Wopat’s high school – ran a tribute on March 30.

“Sam Wopat is forever in our hearts and memories,” the tribute said. “She will be missed dearly and will always be remembered for her exquisite smile and love of laughter.”

The article also mentioned that the Santa Barbara Volleyball Club created a fund in Wopat’s honor.

 

Campus response and resources

Campus-wide responses to Wopat’s hospitalization began in the days following her attempted suicide.

On March 19, Resident Assistants (RAs) and other Suites residents sent emails announcing a vigil for Wopat.

“Saturday was a hard night for many members of our community,” wrote one RA. “If you would like to send love/support for those involved, take a trip to Maples Pavilion. At the entrance is a tree from which we are hanging messages, notes, drawings, etc. Materials should be in a brown bag near the tree.”

Associate Dean for Residential Education Nate Boswell and Senior Associate Dean for Religious Life Rabbi Patricia Karlin-Neumann emailed the Suites community on March 30 echoing the sentiments of the student messages.

“It is always an incredibly difficult thing when a member of our community passes on and we would like to create a space for Suites residents to process together and gather as a community,” the email read.

In an April 2 op-ed in The Daily, Vice Provost Greg Boardman encouraged students to utilize campus resources, including Residential Education staff, Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), the Office of Religious Life and the Bridge Peer Counseling Center.

About Kristian Davis Bailey

Kristian Davis Bailey is a junior studying Comparative Studies in Race & Ethnicity. A full time journalist/writer and occasional student, he's served as an Opinion section editor, News writer and desk editor for The Daily, is a community liaison for Stanford STATIC, the campus' progressive blog and journal, and maintains his own website, 'With a K.' He's interested in how the press perpetuates systems of oppression and seeks to use journalism as a tool for dismantling such systems.
  • MN

    This is a terrible loss of a wonderful young person. My thoughts are  with the family and her loved ones.

    I must ask, to the writer of this article: how is it an attempted suicide if it was ultimately a successful one?

  • GS

     In the context of specific points in time being referenced,
    the usage is correct. 

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/UZMSGO6UKR4457XTYXGSSLLZYE Cat

    How do you know this was what happened?

  • Professor Pat

    It’s probably safe to assume that she was in a comatose state and being kept alive via life support; so technically speaking she did not end her life by her own hand. 

  • guest

    Maybe we should not split hairs on this. We know enough of the details of this tragedy. Let’s let her family & friends have some privacy.

  • Dog

    It has been reported that she tried to hang herself. After that she was in intensive care for 8 days, so he is making a safe assumption. You really could not work that out yourself?

  • guest

    ok you all know what happened now. Let them grieve in peace.

  • Mike

    Blessings to Samantha and her family. May she rest in peace. I know the pain from losing one very dear family member, Kristina / Krissy / Kiki / Stine, in similar circumstances.

    Life goes on, but the pain is always there somewhere. It’s hard, but try, perhaps not right away but in the coming weeks, months, and years, to focus on the joyous times, the fun times, the laughter you experienced with Sam in those 19 years together.

  • Joe Sciarretta

    So very sad.  I also had a family member with an eating disorder and she eventually committed suicide.  There were intervention attempts, to no avail.  We just could not get through; there was even a forced stay in a hospital for awhile. 

    So very, very sad.  Such a young, talented, vibrant girl.  I just cannot get over the tragedy of what she did.

  • Mike

    Joe — so sorry to hear of your family’s loss of a loved one due to an eating disorder. Sam may have been in a similar difficult situation. What you wrote in your first paragraph could have been written by me a well — your description is stunningly similar to my family’s experience with our loss. Bulimia, anorexia and the like seem to be a growing, yet well hidden disease. Sad.

  • Grad

    Was Sam struggling with anorexia or bulemia? Was her parents & coaches aware of her eating disorder?

  • GS

    Watch the Facebook video she made and remember her with a smile as you recall her account of how she got excited and hit herself in the head with the refrigerator door when she found avocados inside. 

    http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=2335483180567

  • Lynn

    Heartbreaking for her family, teammates, friends and the volleyball community. I remember being so excited to see SAm and Carly play in Albuquerque their freshman year. So talented. So beautiful…….God bless you and keep you Sam.

  • Guest

    This is utterly heartbreaking. I have personally known four people (three students and one staff member) who lost their lives at Stanford from depression and suicide. They were all terrific and brilliant people with amazing potential, and I still grieve their loss while honoring their lives and accomplishments. Depression is a serious, potentially life-threatening illness that affects too many people on our campus! I urge everyone in the Stanford community — students, faculty, staff, administrators, the Bridge, ResEd,  Vaden, the Stanford Hospital, the departments of psychology and psychiatry, parents, alumni and anyone who has a heart — not to sweep this under the rug but to join together to make necessary changes to support students and others in need and help to reduce the incidence of depression and suicide at Stanford.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=745211302 Jmark Ma

    it drives me insane that people keep saying they are sweeping anything under the rug.  no one is.  They are being respectful to the family and doing the right thing. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=745211302 Jmark Ma

    good God; please stop all the speculation; enough. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=745211302 Jmark Ma

    Sam touched a lot of lives in Southern, and Northern California.  We don’t know what happened and speculation is not needed. 

    Let them bury their daughter in peace and let the poor family grieve.  

  • Guest

    Jmark Ma, you keep beating the same drum.   You are the one who should “read the room”;  this room, this forum–as well as the other boards you are posting on–where you seem to be in the minority.  If your repeated and impassioned insistence on silence is because you are a family member or close friend of the Wopat’s, I am sympathetic to your experience and I am sorry for your loss.   But your continued pleas are misguided and ineffective.  Particularly 17 days after the fact.  I attended Stanford as an undergraduate 25 years ago.  It’s an elite school with more competition than most of these kids have ever experienced.   Maybe more than they ever will again.  It was a  pressure-cooker environment then.  I can only imagine the pressure these kids feel today, especially the athletes for whom continuing financial assistance is tied to athletic as well as academic performance.  And it’s often these exceedingly bright and talented kids who fall apart during the first couple of years.  Suicide on college campus’s is epidemic.  It needs to be addressed whenever it occurs.  No one is trying to make this harder for you or Ms. Wopat’s friends and loved ones.    “The cat’s out of the bag”, as the saying goes.  Even if there were no posts alluding to it here, The Daily confirmed suicide.  It’s not morbid curiosity.  Maintaining silence out of  “respect for the family’s wishes” does not help our young people.  It’s just denial.  Talking and being honest is the most vital first step.    And parents have a right to know as well.  They are trusting their most precious treasure to the school for at least four years. Suicide is preventable.  Maybe not in this case, but who knows?  No facts are being shared which is why the reckless speculation that annoys you so much is taking place.              

  • Sad

    My daughter was also a varsity athlete at Stanford.  After graduation she developed an eating disorder and later was “treated” for mood problems.  Shortly after being prescribed a cocktail of psychiatric drugs she committed suicide.  I hope this is not what happened to Samantha.  I can only say to all of you who rush to blame this tragedy on mental illness, sometimes the “cure” is worse than the disease.  The medications and diagnoses that are being thrown at the emotional ills brought on by academic, athletic, and social pressures often exacerbate the problems despite assertions to the contrary by medical professionals.  The science behind their “effectiveness” is appallingly corrupt.  “Help” in the form of a pill bottle is often exactly the opposite and the evidence that antidepressants and antipsychotics increase the risk of suicide is formidable.  A loss of a promising young life is incredibly hard to take, but when it’s caused by the very thing that was supposed to help, it is especially tragic and unnecessary.  To all of you rushing to solve your problems with pills, educate yourselves and consider the alternatives carefully.  There has been no disclosure that this is what happened in this particular case but any unexpected suicide when “help” was supposedly offered is a cautionary tale that needs to be investigated thoroughly.  There is no doubt in my own mind that my daughter died from treatment, not from her “illness.”  And I have met many people who have had the same experience.  It is far more widespread than the general public could possibly believe.  This is what is being swept under the rug.

  • reader

    stop commenting jmark ma

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=745211302 Jmark Ma

    then you need to call your local suicide prevention and volunteer.  stop talking about what others need to do.  get off your ass and go do it.  

    It’s people like you that make me angry. You talk about what others should and need to do but what do you do?  Walk it and then you can talk it. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=745211302 Jmark Ma

    For you guest to tell a family days after they’ve lost a beautiful child; how to grieve and act is the ultimate sign of self righteous arrogance.  

    Thanks to all who have shown an amazing kindness and sensitivity.  You have made me feel better about humanity.  To all those critical of the wopats, make sure you are volunteering at your local suicide prevention clinic if you are so worried about suicide.  It’s easy to tell others how to react and act, when you are pointing fingers from your couch, and when you have no idea what they are going through. 

    Everyone mourns differently; and you may think you are on top of the world but bad things happen to everyone.  And what comes around goes around.  

    Such a sad time; I know one thing we can agree on is that we wish the Wopat’s and the Stanford volleyball team; and campus; all the best. thanks

  • Guest too

    Jmark Ma,  honestly, a journalist needs to maintain some distance from the story.  Much healthier that way.  I’m certain your heart is in the right place  and you are grieving, but you need not counter the comments that you do not agree with.  People say, feel and comment as they wish — that’s the nature of a discussion.   I hope that you and all the others who are grieving here find peace like a river.

  • Guest

     How do you know what people do?  I AM a suicide prevention volunteer with the San Francisco Diocese and I have been for over 10 years.  It’s a painful topic I know a little bit about.  I’m not surprised that people like me make you angry.  From reading your posts, anyone who has a different opinion than you do makes you angry.   You must be angry a lot.   If you’re done with this you should stop posting.

  • libsrclowns

    Ma gets punked mouthing off…sweet

  • Guest

    Amen…jmark ma- you are on all the boards. You are not the arbiter of what one can say about suicide. Enough from you already!

  • Guest25

     I agree with reader. You need to stop commenting jmark ma. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and no one is being disrespectful. It really seems like  you are here to argue with people. My thoughts and prayers are with the Wopat Family at this time. I hope time finds a way to ease their pain.

  • Professor Pat

    Sounds to me like Ma just stuck her foot in her craw….stop being so presumptuous and self-righteous…you’ve had your say… may I respectfully suggest you find another room to “read”?

  • BobHanson

    I’ve thought deeply about both sides of the drug debate, and often come to the conclusion you’ve come to. But I’ve spoken with a close friend who’s convinced that she’s found the “magic cocktail” of the right drugs that have finally brought her out of her depression, which is a sentiment I’ve heard before.
    So I’m not ready to discount drugs so much anymore. It still feels like a pseudo-science to me, with nobody really knowing WHY the drugs work, but if they do work then who are we to argue. I’m definitely more skeptical of the drugs causing suicide, but I guess if certain combinations can be better, then some combinations could make you worse.
    Unfortunately studies come by way of money, and money comes from selling drugs, so where do you the think the research is going towards? It’s going towards drug-centered therapies! Don’t vote Republican in the next election if you care about non-drug focused medical research. Sorry to get political, but it’s true!

  • Sad

    I do believe everyone should make their own choices with regard to taking medication for mood disorders, but hopefully with fully informed consent and that’s something that’s not really being widely practiced.  I do not disagree that in some cases there is a window of time when the drugs can seem to be “miraculous” and make you “better than well.”  But long term outcomes of chronic medication takers is dismal.  Many psychiatric drugs have cocaine like effects and few of us would ever suggest taking cocaine indefinitely to solve problems.  I can suggest reading Robert Whitaker or David Healy for more on these topics if you are interested.

  • friend

    Sam was one of my best friends. I am not posting to truly berate anyone, only to say this:
    Sam was a beautiful friend. She was a loving person with her own quirks. And I find all of the bickering on this article ridiculous and pointless. None of you were there with her family, with her twin, or with her best friends from childhood who came to say goodbye. She was our sister and we have lost her.

    While many of you feel that the details should be shared, I would ask you to consider for a moment how you come across, even if unintentionally,  to those of us who are greiving. 

    Yes, suicide is a problem among college students. Yes it is often swept under the rug. Yes it should be dealt with. These are all truths, all points that have a very urgent and pressing need for discussion. As a college student myself, I cannot press enough, how truly horrible the amount of stress placed upon us is. 

    However, in the same token, shaming someone for voicing their opinion has no place here PERIOD.  

    People deal with the shock of suicide differently. Allow for that. 

    It has been horribly upsetting for many of us to read the callous comments posted here and on other news sites. But it has also been a joy to see the prayers and hopes from so many more. 

    There is a shock reverberating through our close group of friends that has broken us… we are without direction and have no idea how to patch ourselves up. 
    Sam was the girl all of us thought would be there for our weddings, our class reunions, our mid summer parties for the next 50 years.
     
    Talking about what “COULD have been done to prevent this situation” seems just as ridiculous to me as angrily asking for silence. 

    Let’s try to practice a little tolerance?

     She is dead. We have lost a best friend and a sister.  

    I really don’t know what else to say. 

  • NYC person

    Dear Friend of Sam, I am so very sorry for your loss. I am one of the people who stumbled across the Sam Wopat story when Yahoo kept posting her name as “trending”. When I found out what the story was about, I was shocked and saddened that such a beautiful young girl would take her life. I imagine that despair reached in a moment of impusivity — so natural for the young to be implusive — yielded this horrific tragedy.

    I will pray for Sam and for her family and friends like you. Please put your trust in God and ask Him to ease your pain and keep your hope focused on eventual reunion with Sam in Heaven. Until then, may God bless you.

  • Mike

    Dear friend of Sam:

    Thank you so very much for your kind, tolerant, and eloquent words. Very moving, very touching, very thought-provoking. Bless you and all her family, friends and teammates during this difficult time of mourning for Sam.

    Though there appears to be strong differences of opinion among writers on this forum and other forums as well, the main theme for 99% of the writers is sadness, shock, and grief. And that is right + good, I think.

    I lost a dear sister to suicide 3 years ago, and sadly, so have many other families in the recent past.

    In loving memory to all of them,

    Mike

  • Guest

    There hasn’t been a single post here asking for additional details in over 48 hours.  Not since the cause of death was publicly acknowledged as suicide.  Coincidence?   Or evidence that simply acknowledging it in the first place would have limited speculation?

  • thoughts

    My thoughts and prayers are definitely with Sam, her family and friends. Every life is so precious; I wish so much she were still with us! I recently met a volleyball player working late on a programming assignment – how awesome is it that Stanford athletes take CS?! People may react in different ways, but I expect most of us here are feeling shock and sorrow, and sympathy for those like you who are personally grieving.

  • JR

    Frankly, having been stunned by suicide in my own family, it seems most normal for family and friends not to openly and publicly discuss cause of death, details, etc. immediately – as nearly every one of them are struggling to wrap their minds around such thoughts as : can’t be gone; just saw her/him; things seemed to be going so well; why didn’t they reach out to me; how did I miss the signs, and on and on. It’s not a matter of “hiding” anything – it’s taking one of the most severe emotional blows a person can receive and simply absorbing the shock as best as one can. For the curious, it’s “missing information” or “the rest of the story”; for this young woman’s close circle of friends and family – and any other victim of suicide – it is much, much more, and cuts far deeper. It’s a shame we don’t consider things from the perspectives of others more often.

    My deepest condolences to Sam’s family and friends – I hope they can turn to each other for support through these early days, and in the months and years ahead will continue to feel a solidarity that centers on their love for this girl they knew and loved so well.

  • friend

    I mainly wrote the part about people reacting in different ways because there seems to be a whole roller coaster of emotions happening right now and I wanted to acknowledge that many seem to need to focus more on the “how of her death” rather than really focusing on the immense sorrow others, like myself, are feeling. Not that seeking answers is wrong, only that it is a different way of dealing with this disturbing issue. 

  • Mom

    Thank you FRIEND for posting. As a mother of one of those best friends from childhood, this has all been so difficult. Sam was truly remarkable as are her friends. We all continue to grieve with you.  

  • Cath

    The Wopat family and their friends are in shock and profound mourning right now. They deserve our compassion and respect for their privacy.  There are few things in life sadder than the loss of a young person to mental illness. My heart goes out to everybody who has been impacted by this sad death. 

    This news is just so sad. I tutor students in high school and middle school and one of my students committed suicide a year after I had worked with him. He was such a sweet, talented student — it was just heartbreaking that the pain of depression was too much to bear. Years later, I still feel so much sadness about his death.  

    Depression is a terrible illness and needs to be recognized as an illness like any other rather than stigmatized. The only good thing that can come out of the loss of a young person is greater awareness and knowledge of the disease to prevent similar tragedies. 

    I suspect that the Wopat family will become involved in educating the public about depression in young people after they have grieved. The parents of the student I tutored became very involved in raising awareness and understanding of mental illness in young people. I’m sure their work has motivated others to seek help and prevent additional tragedies. 

  • Guest RS

    I feel so sad for the Wopat family and all friends of Sam. This is just a tragic case for all involved. Having lost a close family member in the same way, I understand the feelings involved. There will always be a void that can never truly be filled but you find ways to accept the pain and celebrate the life of the person who is no longer with you. You can drive yourself crazy with the woulda, shoulda and coulda frame of thinking. That has to be let go. I think all the curious people who wanted information about her death are just so shocked that a 19 year old girl, such as Sam, could die and nobody has an answer. By releasing vague answers, it builds up speculation and fuels the fire for people who feel they need to know. For people who have never had to deal with this situation closely, I hope and pray that you never have to. It’s an unimaginable feeling of pain and being completely lost. It’s human nature to be so curious about what happend and I believe that if they let people know a little sooner then maybe some of the comments on here could of been avoided. Generally speaking, most people will be very compassionate of the situation once they are made aware.  Once again, please do not forget that a very brilliant young girl is no longer with us and that people close to her will probably read all these comments at some point. Her life and accomplishments should be celebrated. Now that people know how she passed away, this would be a great place to put up a wonderful memory you had of Sam. It would be uplifting for the friends and family to read something so warm and positive about her.  My deepest sympathies go out to her friends and family in this terribly painful time.

  • F662775

    Jmark, I think you might have misunderstood what I was trying to say, which is that the Stanford community should not turn a blind eye to the problem of suicide on campus (as the University has done in the past, unfortunately) but should instead make every possible effort to prevent it.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_L6LDCOB26LC7MXEJBA4HVNP4SQ Lorraine M

    Talking about what COULD have been done to prevent a suicide “ridiculous”? Certainly NOT.  Those in Ms. Wopat’s inner circle had a MORAL obligation to GET INVOLVED, something that Californians are loath to do, as I learned in my years of living there at one time.

    Now, if there were NO signs whatsoever that suicide was being contemplated, which I highly doubt, then there was nothing a friend or family member could have done to prevent the tragic outcome.

    HOWEVER, if in retrospect, family members and friends privately recollect instances where warning signs WERE apparent, then the “If only I had…..” clearly applies.

    It would be far better for people to become OVERLY involved and even the slightest suspicion of a suicide attempt result in mandatory admission to a psychiatric facility for evaluation and treatment, than to have ONE MORE PERSON accomplish their objective.

    The degree of mental defect present at the time suicide is decided upon can’t continue to be ignored or swept under the rug. This is the 3rd young person (under 30) I’ve learned about over the past year, that took their lives.  For the other two young men, the warning signs were there, but the single mothers/other family/friends had grown tired of helping the afflicted person. They did nothing and suicide was the inevitable outcome.

  • Cardinal22

    Shut the hell up.  You know nothing about this situation, and blaming her friends and family is ridiculous you old faggot.  You don’t know Sam.  You don’t know her family.  You don’t know her friends or her team, so who are you to make accusations like this.  You know nothing about this girl, what help she was getting, and what she was showing to the world.  So put this blaming shit right back up your ass where it belongs.      

  • Guest

    Hmmm…Did JmarkMa change his or her handle to Cardinal22 (or JPM, Jim, or Iceman4444?)  Same profanity.  Same anger.  Same intolerance.  Same rudeness.  I guess there could be more of you out there but it makes one wonder.  You certainly have a lot in common with each other.       

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_PTF45VCBQC623XJLKMJFGEWD6U gangstalook gangsta

     Well, well..You said quite a lot about ” treatment” and it could be misleading. Doctors try as they may to find the “right” balance and its not the drugs that kill people – its the imbalance of the brain and other things that are outside cues. Mental illness is known to strike in early teens or by 26,27 years of age and many people have no idea that family members have been diagnosed [already] because its so secretive (the subject). The stigma and the TREATMENT from people is what can kill the person suffering from mental illness, not the treatment of medication in my opinion. There are periods where people on meds want to feel whole or just removed from having to take a pill or pill(s) daily and people just don’t understand. When ever there are disagreements the person with mental illness is called “Crazy”and they are likely most logical and clear headed. I am just trying to say- there is alot of shame and embarrassment attached to mental illness and parents,friends, and people you’d think you can trust can be the worst people because they too are ignorant. I just want to advise people on what “NOT” say to people who may be suffering 1) Snap out of it- this is very insulting 2)You need to get a grip- very belittling  and 3)This is just a phase and it will pass… wishful thinking doesn’t heal mental illness. The isolation and the secret is devastating, and last before I forget- please don’t use references to God and sin- this is just plain out wrong. Persons with mental illness have faith in God and even if they don’t believe the way you do it should not make anyone chastise them or imply they have been cursed because this is not the truth. In closing suicide and the act of suicide wants to remain SILENT and a SECRET and its important to uncover it and discuss it because there is much to learn; not the detail of anyone’s death but the moods,emotions, isolation, and lastly the survivors guilt- that if I could have said this or that- or maybe had I asked…’All of these things may not or may have changed anything because suicide in the mindset is selfish and at that time the person unfortunately believes there are no available options, and we all want to get that lie out into the open- There are options, medication, therapy, acupuncture- the right environment of non-judging people etc. May God bless her family and twin sister and hopefully we can all dispel the myth of suicide that there are no options; REACH OUT and don’t be silent; suicide is a killer and it does great harm when it isolates the loved one, and their chemical imbalance in the brain is the reason this happens; some drugs may trigger suicidal thoughts, but telling a doctor will help to try new different meds- it all makes a difference…Your worth the try! There are options!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_PTF45VCBQC623XJLKMJFGEWD6U gangstalook gangsta

     The words your using kinda gives the impression that possibly your views are not quite centered in hearing about the success stories of people who have become stable. Certainly, there are professionals who opt to take the basic minimal drugs due to the side effects and decide to engage in aggressive intensive outpatient therapy. I suggest people watching the movie ”  A  Beautiful Mind.” Life does get better and the blue funk cloud does go away…(smile). Coffee is addictive and when one may not have that morning caffeine- u may also get that little slight headache of craving, and that is the same way it is for prescribed medications for Major Depression, Bipolar and Schiz0-affective disorder or OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorders). I am just advocating HOPE, not just “Dismal”outcomes and cocaine like addictions ‘which is outdated. One cannot simply read a book and cure all forms of mental illness; There are successful ways to MANAGE mental illness and exercise works, a gluten free diet works, checking for vitamin deficiencies, lowering stress, getting help for addictions of alcohol and illegal drugs help as well. There is no one stop remedy, but the first step is getting out of DENIAL and actually ACKNOWLEDGING you may have not been feeling good about yourself and life events for a period of time. Other outside cues and ,deaths,setbacks, disappointments, breakups with boyfriend or girlfriend can also dampen your mood. I’ve heard that St. Johns Wort helps some people but doctors are against it and acupuncture because it appears its not long term treatment. In closing, please lets have HOPE and encourage others there is help.Life is worth trying many solutions. There are options, may God Bless…

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_PTF45VCBQC623XJLKMJFGEWD6U gangstalook gangsta

     Please allow me to answer a question about  “How is it an Attempted Suicide if it was ultimately a successful one comment.” I believe answering this in the basic terms will allow others to understand in depth. Years ago I read an article about people who set out to commit suicide, they all felt that their lives were not worth living and each took distinct measures to leave the earth. Well the story highlighted all the people who attempted suicide but LIVED.  They decided to tell their story because they wanted others to know that their life before the attempt was much better then the way they were currently living after the attempt because of all the medical complications/ hurdles they have to live with like taking seizure meds for life. Yet to answer your question; a person can attempt suicide and survive(it just wasn’t your time), but in one case the person had serious back injury and confined to a wheelchair and the risk of infection became higher and people can die from infections. In short, Life is Good- Everyday shouldn’t be taken for granted; People care about you and it is important to know things will get better and reach out for help! Attempted suicide may not kill a person but the complications from other things respiratory etc may. If that helps answer inquiring minds.

  • Eikin Kloster

    Suicide is first and foremost responsibility of the family. A suicidal is essentially someone who was taught he has no intrinsic value, but is only worth what he can give others.  And one can perfectly grieve and be open about what happened, as we saw Walter Koenig on his message right after he found his son hanging from a tree in Vancouver: “my son unfortunatelly killed himself. Thanks for all who are mourning with us” or something like that.

    The best thing you could do for the dignity of the family is to step out of this flame war. But I don’t think you should step out. You should stay, and revell in ignomy, because suicide *is* a blemish on all that stood close to the victim. May God have mercy upon your soul.

  • Guest

    This is especially for JmarkMa.  We know you’re still out there skulking around, passing judgement, whatever name you’re using this week.  Now YOU can walk the walk, put YOUR efforts where your mouth is and stop picking on everyone else.  For the rest of you who are genuinely compassionate and concerned, this is a really worthy cause.  If you have the time, please check it out.   Thanks!

    http://theovernight.donordrive.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=donordrive.eventDetails&eventID=501

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