OPINIONS

Don’t tell us how to feel

As a Stanford freshman, I decided to run for the undergraduate senate. Naturally, I sought endorsements from major students groups on campus including the JSA, Queer Students Coalition and SOCC. I was well aware of the differences in opinions on divestment between SOCC and JSA and how strongly these differences were debated during a previous divestment vote. Coming into my interview with SOCC and the JSA, I was prepared to answer questions on divestment even though, having lived in Ujamaa my freshman year, my views on divestment were quite well known by some SOCC members with whom I was well acquainted.

During my interview with SOCC, I did not necessarily feel targeted as a Jew when asked about my relationship to the Jewish community and my views on divestment. For me, my views on Israel were largely influenced by my Jewish identity, and I found it a valid question to be asked by members of a community that had supported divestment in the past. It had been almost two years since I had thought back to my interview with SOCC, when Molly Horwitz recently accused the coalition of anti-Semitism.

Molly Horwitz’s accusations stemmed from feeling personally targeted because of her religion by members of SOCC when they apparently asked her about divestment and her relationship to the issue considering her Jewish identity. I am not sure what exactly happened during that interview, whether the question was framed in the context of religion, nor do I know who to trust here—SOCC or Molly. Frankly, I do not care.

The goal of this article is not to diagnose what is or isn’t anti-Semitic. There is no clear line of what makes something anti-Semitic or not. From person to person, within the community, that line changes. There are certain things that I find extremely offensive that may not be hurtful for a Jewish relative or friend, and vice versa. The definition of anti-Semitism is not decided by an individual. It is especially not declared by those that have never been Jewish; it is something that is never fully agreed upon unless there is unanimous agreement within the community regarding a specific case, whether that community be the Jewish community of Stanford or the Jewish community in the United States.

I have no idea where this issue between Molly Horwitz and SOCC is headed. I am not sure about what transpired between them nor am I sure if it was anti-Semitic. However, this is not the first time that Jews on campus have been told that something is not anti-Semitic by those who are not a part of the Jewish community. During divestment debates recently, members of SOOP repeatedly told the senate that the bill was not anti-Semitic. Though I personally did not feel the bill was anti-Semitic or targeting Jews as a whole, I am not the sole arbiter of what is and isn’t anti-Semitic–only the Jewish community is and many felt the bill was anti-Semitic.

Just as it would be reprehensible for the JSA to tell members of other minority communities what is and is not racist, sexist or homophobic, I find it personally atrocious that members who are not participants in the Jewish community at Stanford would clearly state for the campus as a whole that their own actions were not anti-Semitic. Sometimes, people make mistakes. Sometimes, there are hurtful actions that offend people or groups on campus. Instead of telling individuals and other communities that they are being too sensitive or that they have misinterpreted certain intentions, it is sometimes just better to apologize even if you think you did nothing wrong. Don’t get me wrong, the intentions behind all actions are important during any encounter. Intentions are what separate implicit racist, sexist, anti-semitic or homophobic remarks from explicit ones. However, harm can still occur no matter how noble the intentions are. We should try to repair harm, not explain our reasoning behind our actions to avoid saying sorry.

Apologies resolve issues. Refutations are the beginnings to arguments that are most likely only going to cause a further divide in the Stanford community. Perhaps no harm was intended, but the fact that a member of the Stanford community was hurt by the actions of another means that an apology should be warranted. We should not get in the habit of telling others how to feel or interpret our actions. Rather, we should learn from past actions and try to push ourselves to understand what we did that may have caused harm in order to avoid future altercations.

Zane Hellmann ’16

Former ASSU Senator

Contact Zane Hellmann at zaneh ‘at’ stanford.edu. 

  • yeah but

    If Molly had come to SOCC in private and asked for an apology and an explanation, then she would have gotten it. However, when she gets everyone and their mothers on the phone, making serious and damning allegations of anti-semitism, mind you right before elections as opposed to weeks ago when the incident occurred, then it is in fact Molly that owes SOCC an apology.

  • Baseless Allegations

    This op-ed added another level of perspective. Zane Hellman was endorsed by both SOCC and JSA during his term as a senator. While Mr. Hellman may not care if the allegations by Ms. Horowitz are true, this further substantiates the fact that SOCC does not endorse based on divestment. Period.

  • student’15

    The beginning of the article doesn’t really match the end. Towards the beginning, it says

    ” I am not sure what exactly happened during that interview, whether the question was framed in the context of religion, nor do I know who to trust here—SOCC or Molly.”

    That, in my mind, is the most reasonable line to take for someone who wasn’t there like 99.9% of us. But later, it says:

    ” Perhaps no harm was intended, but the FACT that a member of the Stanford community was hurt by the actions of another means that an apology should be warranted.” (emphasis mine).

    I might be misunderstanding, but it sounds like the article switches from saying that the author doesn’t know what happens, to saying that he does, and that SOCC should apologize. If we believe Molly, then yes. If we believe SOCC, then Molly should apologize. We can argue about who is more trustworthy (maybe there’s even a way that they genuinely remember the event differently), but it really doesn’t make sense to ask someone to apologize for something that they claim didn’t happen.

  • robman012

    Uh, no homeboy, you don’t get to say what is and isn’t anti-Semitism; just as Blacks nor anyone else in this country gets to decide what is and isn’t racism. If we did, it would be chaotic. If someone criticized rap music, which is dominated by us, it isn’t racist. But if my people get angry and upset about it, we don’t have the right to re-define the definition of racism just so it can conveniently fit our political agenda. Divestment from companies that are complicit in human rights abuses is not anti-Semitic, and its an insult to those who have even most basic level of logic. Just because some don’t like it, doesn’t make it anti-Semitic. What next, if we divest from companies that profit from human rights abuses is say, China, would that make it racist or bigoted against Chinese people? Should we not divest because Chinese students may feel “uncomfortable” or “hurt”? Was Divestment from South Africa also racist, and if we had South African students on campus, should we had reframed from divestment? If we divest from Iran, would it be OK for Iranian students to redefine Islamaphobia to include divestment in order to impose a gag order on campuses?

  • On the Contrary

    I think many would argue that the targeting of any specific country, as the BDS movement does, shows an implicit bias. Divesting from human rights violating companies is not inherently anti-Semitic. Yet, targeting the only Jewish country in the world, when there are countries with genocide, ethnic cleansing, and child labor, seems to show a willingness to revert back to historic trends of using Jews as scapegoats.

  • robman012

    Just because Israel is the “only” Jewish country in the world doesn’t mean it gets a free pass. No one on this earth should get a pass. To suggest that is equivalent of imposing racial supremacy against another people. That is racist and bigoted (not saying you are). Human life comes before racial or ethnic identity. Its offensive to suggest that a socially constructed mechanism is more urgent than humanity.

  • mxm123

    I should not tell you how you should feel. But if you feel “hurt” then i should apologize. How bizzare.

  • http://www.ihwlaw.com Isaac H. Winer

    The op-ed establishes exactly the opposite – read the second paragraph. Though Hellmann did not take offense at SOCC’s prior inquiry into his views about divestment given his Jewish identity, that is essentially the same inquiry that Horwitz is now complaining about. And the whole point of the op-ed is that it is not for non-Jews to tell Jews what is anti-Semitic, as each Jew may define or experience it differently (though I would add that the law does define discrimination, and the question asked violates that standard IMHO). The incredible irony is that SOCC, which claims to represent students of color, seems all too capable of invoking the most extreme standards of sensitivity when it is about SOCC’s agenda but it is disgustingly indifferent when it comes to Jewish sensitivities. Hypocrisy. Bigotry. Period.

  • mxm123

    To move this along, it is not for Jews to tell non-Jews what is anti semitic also. “Anti-semitism” seems to be oh so self serving.

  • ModernMaccabi

    You are so full of crap that it is laughable.

  • ModernMaccabi

    You raise some interesting points. Why is it that Stanford students are not calling for boycotts of Iran, Russia, China, Saudi Arabia and myriad of other countries that violate human rights? Why is Israel the only country, especially given that its alleged human rights violations pale in comparison to some of the others you mentioned?

  • robman012

    LOL. You just did exactly what I said the Israeli propagandist engage in. Thanks for proving my point. When you cant tackle the subject at hand, change the subject. It’s all the art of deflection.

  • ModernMaccabi

    Why would a pro-Israel group call for the boycott of those countries? That makes no sense. Regardless, I’m happy to discuss any issue you’d like. I just ask that you be respectful and cease labeling me as a propagandist. All I was doing was responding to your point about the other countries and asking a question.

  • ModernMaccabi

    Robman012: Some people have different definitions of the term “occupied” as it applies to Israel. What territories do you deem occupied? And what is your ultimate goal with regard to Israel? Is your advocacy limited to establishing a Palestinian state in the West Bank and Gaza? Or are your goals more comprehensive?

  • Buddha

    Yes, you are misunderstanding. The author doesn’t know what words were said in the room, but he and everyone else knows the outcome. A student was offended, she felt that her religion was put into question. Instead of apologizing, as Molly asked initially, SOCC denied her the right to feel offended by telling her that what they did was not anti-Semitic. Instead of saying “we’re sorry you were offended, if anyone understands undertones of racism it’s us and that was not our intention” SOCC said, “you’re a liar”

    There is a difference between knowing what happened in the room, and knowing the outcome and how SOCC should have more appropriately responded

  • Buddha

    Reframing the author’s point in a few sentences:

    Regardless of how SOCC felt about the interview, and regardless of what words were actually spoken, Molly felt that her religion was put into question. She was emotionally hurt by the interview.

    Instead of apologizing when she asked quietly for an apology. SOCC called her a liar. That’s wrong. They should have just apologized. There was an opportunity to do so back in mid-March when this was first reported to the administration.

    My commentary: SOCC, of all organizations should recognize the importance of taking someone’s hurt feelings seriously. After all, students of color are constantly seeking apology and understanding from white people who commit microagressions. And even though white folks might not have meant to offend, they should still say sorry. SOCC should still apologize, and not doing so is antithetical to the values that they allegedly stand for.

    At this point though, it’s clearly a little bit too late for that.

  • Buddha

    That’s not the issue here. The issue is why SOCC is taking such an aggressive stance against a girl who was offended by their questioning.

    According to emails, Molly reached out to the administration about this, quietly, on March 13th. SOCC had ample time to apologize and didn’t. This has blown up (a month later) because instead of apologizing to a student who had hurt feelings, they called her a liar and tried to define for themselves what is anti-semitic.

    It’s like a white guy saying that his actions that offended a black person are not actually offensive and that he’s not racist.

  • Buddha

    She did reach out privately first. One month ago. SOCC didn’t apologize. That’s why we’re discussing this now.

    Read this article in the review which links to the emails sent between the administration and Molly back on March 15th that show that all she was asking for was an apology. By March 19th, the administration had talked with SOCC, but instead of apologizing, SOCC countered with a different story.

    http://stanfordreview.org/article/allegations-of-anti-semitism-levied-against-socc-leadership-in-assu-elections/

  • Buddha

    If you’re offended, I’m sorry. No one is out to get you personally Mxm123. You should feel secure posting your views and I wish you good health.

    And in that same line of trying not to hurt other people, please stop spreading hate and spreading angry accusations yourself. I cringe when I read your posts because I’m wondering what angry thing you are going to say next. It’s not helping…

  • mxm123

    Calling out people for their “anti-semitism” is hateful and angry, Or is it calling a spade a spade. Till today Molly has provided not one iota of proof regarding her “anti-semitic” allegations. What do you call that ?

  • mxm123

    Molly has every right to feel whatever it is she feels. However when she starts throwing “anti-semitic” accusations that’s shameful. Why should someone apologize for something they’re being falsely accused of ? Where are you going with this.

  • mxm123

    “”Ms. Horwitz responded: “I’m saddened by the action of my peers and would like a public apology. I think it’s also extremely problematic for the SOCC to still be able to endorse other students, when they have demonstrated discriminatory practices.””

    That doesn’t sound like a person who wanted an apology and she’d go away. Quit pretending that Molly’s the victim here. “Anti-semitism” looks all too convenient by Molly, especially after having being so outspoken about Divestment and having supporters like her mother who are open fans of Islamophobic organizations like Stand With Us.

    The tale Molly’s spinning sounds made up more and more by the day.

  • Buddha

    Molly actually never used the words “anti-semitic” in describing the encounter. The Stanford Review did.

  • Buddha

    Never said Molly is a victim. I’m saying SOCC has responded inappropriately.

    And please stop making bizarre accusations about this girl’s mom.

  • mxm123

    And she never explicitly in her “publicity” tour negated or contradicted that.

  • mxm123

    She’s portrayed herself as such plenty. With regard to this girl’s mom its based on FACT. Her mom’s Facebook site had lists Stand With Us. And unlike Molly I’m pointing at a verifiable fact.

  • Dan

    Here is the mission statement of Stand With Us

    “StandWithUs is an international, non-profit organization. We believe that education is the road to peace. StandWithUs is dedicated to informing the public about Israel and to combating the extremism and anti-Semitism that often distorts the issues. We believe that knowledge of the facts will correct common prejudices about the Arab-Israeli conflict, and will promote discussions and policies that can help promote peace in the region. Through print materials, speakers, programs, conferences, missions to Israel, campaigns, social media and internet resources, we ensure that the story of Israel’s achievements and ongoing challenges is told on campuses and in communities around the world. Based in Los Angeles, StandWithUs has sixteen offices across the U.S., Canada, Israel and in the UK.”
    It is AGAINST extremism and FOR peace, it is NOT Islamophobic. It is AGAINST those who mischaracterize those who stand for Israel as being Islamophobic, which support of Israel is not and never has been.

  • mxm123

    The Sugar Mama of Anti-Muslim Hate
    http://www.thenation.com/article/168374/sugar-mama-anti-muslim-hate#

    “As Islamophobia consumes broad sectors of America’s pro-Israel community, leading Israel advocacy groups are dispatching anti-Muslim speakers to college campuses across the country. Chief among them is StandWithUs, an organization that Danny Ayalon, Israel’s deputy foreign minister, says his government uses to “amplify our power.” In May StandWithUs sent Rosenwald beneficiary Jasser to appear beside a cast of neoconservative activists at a University of California, San Diego, event dedicated to condemning established human rights groups. Earlier in the year, StandWithUs dispatched Nonie Darwish, an ex-Muslim convert to evangelical Christianity who calls Islam “a poison to our society,” to speak at the University of New Mexico.”

    Molly and her mom should be proud of Molly’s moms support of an openly Islamophobic organization.

  • Another Perspective

    Inappropriately?

    An apology is only warranted if Ms. Horwitz’s allegations are true. SOCC is on record right now as saying that her allegations are false. This unfortunately means that either Molly is lying, or SOCC is. An apology by SOCC would be confirming her side of the story.

    If SOCC does not apologize, and Ms. Horwitz does not recant, then we cannot pass judgement as to what action is appropriate. All we can do is speculate as to what actually happened.

  • Another Perspective

    It appears that SOCC is saying that Molly has given a misrepresentation of what actually happened at her interview.

    The aggression may be caused by the involvement of the Stanford Review. SOCC and the Stanford Review apparently have been in disagreement for well over a decade, a fact that is well-known on Stanford’s campus. Because Molly went to the Review, SOCC appears to be assuming malicious intent.

  • Buddha

    The timeline is important here.

    Molly first went to the administration privately, which talked to SOCC a month ago in March.

    When no apology was given for several weeks, what people who aren’t getting results generally do is go public with their story. That’s what Molly did. She waited, got no response, and went to people who she knew would listen.

    Leah Francis similarly went public with her sexual assault allegations after she felt Stanford did not deal with them appropriately. That’s what people do when the bureaucracy doesn’t work in their favor.

    SOCC has had several weeks to keep this thing quiet and instead chose to stand firm. They could have said, “we disagree with your version of events but are sorry that you are offended and we will work to make sure it doesn’t happen again.” Instead they said “you are a liar” and they started something that is now way bigger than a dispute over who said what.

  • Dina Wilson

    Oh come on, “I didn’t do anything wrong but I’m sorry you’re offended” Is a -terrible- apology. No one would accept that.

  • rab

    Stand w Us is far from Islamophobic. Ridiculous assertion.

  • ModernMaccabi

    Max Blumenthal is hardly an objective voice on this issue. His extreme anti-Israeli views are well known. Your lies and misrepresentations are very easy to expose.

  • mxm123

    “StandWithUs dispatched Nonie Darwish, an ex-Muslim convert to evangelical Christianity who calls Islam “a poison to our society,” to speak at the University of New Mexico.”

    Max Blumenthal made this up ? Oh wait, its smear time

  • ModernMaccabi

    Hosting a human rights advocate who also is critical of certain elements of Islam does not make an organization Islamophobic. Just like hosting a speaker who is against certain policies imposed by the Israeli government does not make those organizations anti-Semetic. Your logic is just so flawed.

  • Alex Yip

    The way Molly Horowitz was treated is despicable. Are other candidates treated the same? I had thought Joseph McCarthyism was dead. Apparantly McCarthyism is alive and well in today’s politics as I read the news each day. It appears to me these ‘alleged’ Christians have no idea what they really BELIEVE, but are bent on finding out what others BELIEVE. Since my day’s as a college student we had some self examinations on what we BELIEVE by using critical thinking skills. Perhaps that’s a thing of the past too. These ‘alleged’ Christians would discover, by taking some history lessons, that some of the Nazis were ‘Christians’ and they never could have accomplished the Holocaust without the help of millions of other Christians. HELLO. It wouldn’t surprise me in the least if these ‘alleged’ Christians sent Jesus Christ himself to Auschwitz. (think about it).

    Nessus