OPINIONS

Rape: An uncomfortable truth

The recent events at Stanford are horrifying and tragic. A freshman, varsity swimmer, Brock Turner, was arrested and charged with five felonies for allegedly attempting to rape an unconscious woman outside of a fraternity. He was stopped by two cyclists that saw him on top of the woman and then held him until police arrived on the scene. Now, at the age of 19, Turner faces up to a decade in prison. As the campus reels and the story unfolds, there are important lessons to be learned.

Rape happens everywhere, even at Stanford. Sexual violence affects men and women of all races and socioeconomic classes, but it more frequently affects women. One recent survey out of the University of Oregon found that 35 percent of female respondents and 14 percent of male respondents reported having at least one sexual experience without their consent, and 10 percent of females reporting being raped. Other estimated put the number somewhere around 20 percent of female college students are the victims of attempted or completed rape.

The numbers can be shocking, but as we have just seen, Stanford is not immune to this epidemic of sexual violence. Even at one of the world’s finest academic institutions, there exists a belief that sexuality is to be claimed and conquered.

The person down the hall is a rapist. It’s easy to be horrified that Brock Turner was “the boy next door” and literally an All-American. It is important that we internalize and accept the uncomfortable truth we cannot simply reduce rapists to “monsters.” They are morally repugnant, but they are not the stereotypical monsters that hide in the shadows and lurk in the bushes. When we call them “monsters,” we distance their identities from reality. Rapists are friends, significant others, roommates, classmates, coaches and parents. They are normal people seeking power and control.

Having this mindset will also help us to stop victim-blaming. Right now, people often find it hard to believe that a victim could have ever trusted their attacker, even though the majority of the time, the victim knows their attacker. This explains in part why reporting numbers are so low: It is very difficult and socially isolating to report one of your friends or someone you know. We have all made fun of the “tattletale” at one point in our lives, and the same social stigma carriers over into rape and sexual assault.

Rape is not a “women’s issue,” it’s a human rights issue. Rape disproportionately affects women, but it is not a women’s issue; it is a human rights issue. Rape and sexual violence violate a human’s right to bodily integrity. Thinking about the issue through a human rights lens makes it less polarizing and a more inclusive conversation.

The victims of violence are diverse, but there is never a single victim traumatized by sexual violence. Victims have friends, significant others and family that are also traumatized. Rape affects everyone.

Rape is about power, privilege and entitlement. Before any of the details about the victim start to leak, and the defense attempts to sully the image of yet another innocent woman, it is important to remind ourselves why rape happens. Rapists engage in sexual violence for power and control. Rapists do not think what they do is rape and continue to rape because they feel a sense of entitlement to a victim’s body of sexuality. They feel that the way someone acts, dresses or looks gives them the right to their victim’s sexuality. This is completely flawed logic, but it is essential that we understand the power dynamic of rape to understand the nature of the crime.

There is hope. On Tuesday, two ex-Vanderbilt football players were convicted of rape, and both of them face up to a decade in prison. The defense argued with the classic rape myths, stating that it was a campus culture of binge drinking and casual sex that allowed the rape to happen. The prosecution won by pointing out that it was the athletes’ sense of entitlement and belief that they were above the rules that led them to rape a young woman. The jury only took three hours to deliberate.

We are changing minds and opinions.

 

Taylor Brown ’16

Contact Taylor Brown at taybro13 ‘at’ stanford.edu.

  • They rapin errybody out der
  • whiteroses

    Thank you for this. All of it is clear, well thought out, common sense- which seems to be sorely lacking in this day and age.

  • Aren’t Straw Men Great?

    “The person down the hall is a rapist.” ?????? I think you’re trying to say that we should be aware that sexual assault can be committed by anyone, but this is a polemic, hyperbolic, and fearmongering way to express this idea. This issue is too important for broad generalizations and poor rhetoric.

  • My thoughts

    “Rape is about power, privilege and entitlement.”

    Has this been proven anywhere? I’ve seen this claim thrown around a lot, but it seems to contradict the “drunk party” sexual assault narrative which is more about both parties being dangerously intoxicated than anything else.

  • TB

    The “drunk party” sexual assault narrative come from the same power, privilege and entitlement. The social structures that we have built allow for these types of assault to become normative. For example, sorority houses are not allowed to throw parties or have alcohol, therefore to participate in campus social life, sorority members must leave their houses and attend parties in which they have no control over the theme, the atmosphere, or the alcohol. There are also problematic norms that arise at these parties based on the way we have taught men and women what their sexualities should look like. Girls should attend parties and by sexy and coy, and boys need ‘to score’. Painting this cat and mouse game of sexuality is very dangerous and contributes to the “drunk party” sexual assaults that we see very commonly.

  • My thoughts

    You’re obviously not a part of Greek Life at Stanford.

    Anyways, girls drink to have fun. Guys drink to have fun. Sometimes, people have sex when they’re drunk. I have no idea how power, privilege, and entitlement gets thrown in there. If anything, college-aged girls show how much power and privilege they have by being the primary beneficiaries of a federal mandate that allows them to get a guy they don’t like expelled with only a more believable than not accusation.

  • Candid One

    Is there a socially redeeming virtue in connecting drink and fun? After the first drink for female and the second for a male, fun is irrelevant. Purposeful inebriation of any degree is a step away from responsibility. There’s nothing responsible about social drinking of alcohol, including the grand old family traditions of pushing the stuff at get-togethers. DUI, domestic abuse and violence, and rape are nearly mundane in the everyday life of alcohol consumption. Fun? Lame!

  • Candid One

    College dorm myopia. “The person down the hall” is the local counterpart of that pithy, “outside world” factoid about how a rapist is usually someone who’s known to the victim. If you don’t know that, maybe some counseling is in order.

  • ???

    “The prosecution won by pointing out that it was the athletes’ sense of entitlement and belief that they were above the rules that led them to rape a young woman” Um no…they won because there was irrefutable video & photographic evidence presented before the jury…that’s why the jury only took 3 hours to deliberate.

  • Think a bit more, please.

    Do not use a real issue, concrete issue in order to publicize your own agenda. It is revolting, and below the level of intellectual development expected of a Stanford student.

    The student down the hall is not a rapist. The student down the hall is not a felon, an he/she is not a piece of shit. He is a fellow human being, and should be trusted, unless there is any clear motive to mistrust him/her. Please, respect your fellow human beings, irrespective of their gender. Sexism is unacceptable, in any of its forms.

  • farkennel

    “The student down the hall is a rapist”…oh my fucking good grief.Is this what it has come to?Hopefully,Stanford will experience the level of backlash that no sane parent will send their son to study at Stanford.The only thing the bosses will understand is their hip pocket.If ever you needed to see who is in control…quote this feminazi hate piece…DONT SEND YOUR BOY TO STANFORD!!!!

  • Paige

    You write clearly, concisely, and have essentially verbalized my thoughts. Thank you. I suppose one would think that an article like this would be preaching to the choir, but obviously, based upon the comments, these hard-to-address facts need to be internalized by our generation and society. thank you, thank you, thank you

  • farkennel

    Please..when you have babies…PLEASE…PLEASE …PLEASE do not raise boys…..thank you

  • think before you write

    I resent this article. It leverages recent sensitive events to further a personal agenda. I would expect better from a Stanford student. And poor rhetoric to boot.