Am sure ur all aware of the ‘ have fallen out of love’ phrase …. it is a very common one used over and over and over again some mean it some use it as an excuse…..(hey don’t worry it aint me am still totally smitten*blush* *blush*)
anyway since I clarified any confusion that could have taken place …. Lets get back tour topic of the PHRASE “I have fallen out of love” my take on this is … the following:
Can a person fall out of love!!!? ...
Can a person fall out of love!!!? ...
I personally don’t believe they do … I think they just stop caring/nurturing/loving etc the other half…. Ok ok ok … I know ur all going to say well then isn’t falling out of love the same as stop loving !! In my opinion it isn’t the same….. coz ppl think that once they are in a committed relationship they believe that it will automatically magically grow and love is forever ….. well ding dong wake up smell the coffee ...... NO it isn’t that way at all… it is like gardening… u have to plant the seed in nutritious soil, then put it in the environment that will help it grow and water it ans care for it …. So that it may blossom beautifully stop caring for it and it will wither away and die…. a relationship is the same …
It is upto the person what they want to bring into the relationship darkness or sunlight, water it with water or give the pant poison, protect it or leave it for the insects to feed on it ….
Recently I have heard the statement mentioned and relationships withering away and its always either the person is afraid of commitment (already discussed earlier in April under the topic ‘ Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes... but no plans ’) or we/I have fallen out of love …. Please.. really i mean come on...... and seriously never blame one side (in most cases) it takes 2 to tango….. so my lovelies what do u think?
It is upto the person what they want to bring into the relationship darkness or sunlight, water it with water or give the pant poison, protect it or leave it for the insects to feed on it ….
Recently I have heard the statement mentioned and relationships withering away and its always either the person is afraid of commitment (already discussed earlier in April under the topic ‘ Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes... but no plans ’) or we/I have fallen out of love …. Please.. really i mean come on...... and seriously never blame one side (in most cases) it takes 2 to tango….. so my lovelies what do u think?
12 comments:
Hmmmmmmm ... I know what you mean ... I agree to an extent. Two ppl have to work towards making it successful ... otherwise it remains nothingness...
its funny u shud bring this topic up...i had a frend who has been thru this situation recently.....it was not her fault at all.....her guy said he had fallen out of love wid her......n started goin out wid sum1 else 2 weeks later........he was jus 1 desperate freak!!!!....
D: ture true u cant clap wif one hand and also noticed that ppl just dont take much interest once they are commited or so to speak
zanzibar: plz dont mind me i am know to ask many questions:
e.g 1. how do u know that she is in the right and she had nothing to do with the growing apart?
2. ok he dated after 2 weeks (not good) but why (am assuming u knew him too since he was ur friends man) if you did then was it or wasnt it out of character?
or maybe he falls into the handfull of men who are that way or this distance between ur friend and him had been there for while ... like many of us men and women we deny it and think that all is fine when it is not .... and we as friends are ready to blame the guy in a secnd... is that fair ...
am just looking at it from all angles...
Young ppl thing after the love heat goes not ‘cold’ maybe warm it means they’ve fallen out of love but that’s not it .. I think almost all people mix love with lust.. lust is more like a candle in the other words “ppl fall out of lust” once they get it and finished they’r done!!.. however, love stays!! Some people think it disappears *poof* maybe because they think with less cuddling and loving it means the love is gone it’s NOT because after that phase it comes the respect and the caring a good e.g are ur parents. But ppl who just grow apart or break up for reasons such as “fallen out of love” I suppose this is more like a fling or childhood love or crush .. NOT THE REAL THING
n: hmmm interetin but dont u think that the real thing exists not just once but depending on our lives and lifestyle and at what point we are at ... but the lust confusion i agree...
afraid of commitment, Aye?. . . hmmm reminds me of someone :-P Like you said, it takes 2 to tango. . .also, it depends, I'd rather be misrable with the one I love than to be misrable alone. . no body likes to be lonely. . .
i dont know if i would like to be misrable with someone .. hmmm no i wouldnt cozits tourture
I believe in love there is a lot of care. One can never stop caring about the people they love. So in hindsight love is eternal. However due to various circumstances, personal differences our personalities may fail to get along. I guess this is what people mean by falling out of love. But if you have loved someone with your whole heart, we can never stop loving them. We might never see their faces again, but love remains.
Hey Mademoiselle, totally get what you're saying. It's a case of "do you understand, or don't you" :)
Ciao princess
well jawahir 2 answer ure questions...(i dont mind really):
1. she had her faults but so does every1..... she has always been the 1 to compromise in the relationship....she has put up wid a lot of crap from him...including him shouting at her in public,pushin her,hittin her etc. etc.(which in my book r huge mistakes)and always bowed down 2 his wishes watever they may b
2.well they had been going out 4 more than 2 years...n it was considered a pretty stable relationship...she had given her heart n soul 2 him....so the break up was least expected although now looking back at it ....there were many signs to show he had lost ineterst in her (he used to comment badly abt her physical appearance,make nasty remarks,not pick up her calls, act indifferent....)
He turned out to b evrything u wudnt want in a guy...he went out wid a girl afetr 2 weeks who is much prettier than my frend...but now tht girl is dragging him around on a leash.....he has 2 listen 2 her evry whim....if he breaks up then he will lose face in front of his frends....n they fight constantly....
the truth is my frend is lucky she found out sooner thn later
z: why would ur friend put iup with physical abuse and mental and emotional one of them is a deal breaker but all three is like get the hell out of this !!!
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