TIFU by publicly accusing my fiancee of cheating on me

N8theGr8 · 2016-07-04T13:59:19+00:00

This thread is locked because you guys won't stop shitting all over the OP. Every OP in r/TIFU is a dumbass, that's the whole point of the sub, but if all you're going to do is rake OP over the coals, then just don't bother.

I mean, they already know they fucked up, they posted here right? Maybe stop rubbing salt in the wound.

MattyLikes2Play · 2016-07-04T01:59:28+00:00

OP's second post with his throwaway: TIFU by telling Reddit that I publicly shamed my fiancée.

itsbiv · 2016-07-04T01:27:03+00:00

Thank you for that, I feel less shit about my own life

Spandex_Angel · 2016-07-04T01:27:51+00:00

You should NEVER use the internet to try to shame someone, even if they are cheating on you. A lot of unforeseen problems could arise because of it, as you just learned.

OccamsScissors · 2016-07-04T01:26:32+00:00

I can't believe that you were stupid enough to post this on facebook by tagging her in it, but didn't check her profile to see if there was a "Stacey" that you could tag. If you hadn't been so lazy with your tagging, you'd probably have found her cousin and wouldn't be sad and alone.

trivikil · 2016-07-04T01:59:04+00:00

Why does everyone have to air their dirty laundry on Facebook, I just don't understand why telling everyone about the worst parts of your PRIVATE life seems like a good idea. Sorry dude, you are a coward who is too scared of his own fiancé to ask her in private about a private issue. Her life will be better with out you dude.

UpSideRat · 2016-07-04T02:12:58+00:00

Was it too hard to give her a call or ask her, "who is the dude?". I think a relationship gets through with trust, how much idk, but there has to be some. You not only distrusted your fiancee, you showed her how stupid you are, not only calling her a cheater, but also publicly on "Facebook" (that is on another level).

I trust that your ex-fiance dodged a dumb bullet.

imo: or for my own amusment, she could have been cheating on you with her cousin, and for your recklesness, you will never know. This kind of creepy stuff happens.-

JaysRooted · 2016-07-04T00:29:18+00:00

got what you deserved.

Fluffyfishbasket · 2016-07-04T01:23:09+00:00

Why would you try to publicly shame her prior to talking with her? Jesus man, she really dodged a bullet.

In the words of John Wayne, "life is tough, but it's tougher if you're stupid."

valryuu · 2016-07-04T05:45:38+00:00

I've never seen a TIFU post comment thread with absolutely no sympathy before. Congratz OP, you really fucked up big time!

wolftownradio · 2016-07-04T01:46:44+00:00

This really is unfortunate, but it's all because you let your emotions get the better of you. Honestly, if this is how you and your (ex)fiancée communicate(d) your problems, you don't need to be engaged. To her, or anyone.

This post is so specific it's almost masochistic

rromanaround · 2016-07-04T02:20:46+00:00

Am I the only one here that thinks a follow up question should have been asked when told about stacey?

I.e. fiancée: hey my cousin stacey is coming down for a few days...

Me: Where is SHE coming from? or Me: What do you guys plan on doing?

Eventually I'd hear SHE... or HE.....

PM_DEM_bOObys · 2016-07-04T02:10:48+00:00

You Facebook accused your fiancée of cheating on you... without even talking to her about it...? Sounds like she dodged a bullet on that one.

daniell61 · 2016-07-04T01:10:36+00:00

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Samrux · 2016-07-04T01:46:12+00:00

"Today I fucked up by being a complete imbecile"

cantlearnham · 2016-07-04T02:58:24+00:00

I think you meant to post this in /r/writingprompts

Tranquilwolf · 2016-07-04T02:23:45+00:00

I applaud you my friend. This is truly "tifu" and everyone is talking shit about you.

You are a dumbass.

Phizee · 2016-07-04T00:44:51+00:00

I agree with you on one thing, Stacey is a girls name.

edit: YES I REALIZE THERE ARE MALES NAMED STACEY, JUST LIKE THERE ARE CHICKS NAMED TERRY.

I_NeedANewCareer · 2016-07-04T01:28:35+00:00

There's always Stacey's mom.

SpurpleFilms · 2016-07-04T03:47:29+00:00

So for days your fiance told you the things she was doing with Stacey, and not once did she or you use a pronoun to refer to him?

Checks out.

occupytommy · 2016-07-04T06:05:53+00:00

Someone should x post this to /r/cringe

SteveH8231 · 2016-07-04T03:39:08+00:00

I'm gonna go the serious route here and will probably get downvoted because of it, but your willingness to make an impulsive, life altering decision, and publicly shame someone over a personal matter on the internet of all places indicate to me that you might wanna seek professional help. This wasn't some girlfriend of 2 weeks, this was your fiancee.

MouthJob · 2016-07-04T00:45:09+00:00

Why even bother with a throwaway? This is such a specific story, there's no way the people involved wouldn't know who you are.

zopfen · 2016-07-04T13:39:50+00:00

Use this one simple rule for posting to Facebook. Only post happy or neutral things. Treat it like a photo album. Don't talk about politics and don't air your dirty laundry in public.

prxchampion · 2016-07-04T01:50:45+00:00

So was Stacey raw dogging your girl or not??

LaggaX · 2016-07-04T02:00:42+00:00

You must be like 20 years old to post something so private in facebook. You deserve it.

Salindurthas · 2016-07-04T02:43:59+00:00

While I hate to do this, you seem to acknowledge some levels of your fuck-up, but there are even more issues with your story than you seem to realise.

This isn't just "I forgot Stacey was a male cousin". Even if your fiance was cheating on you, you handled it incorrectly. Specifically, once you suspected cheating you should have talked to her.

Also, you jumped to conclusions a bit too fast even considering that you didn't think he was her cousin. A man can sleep in a house with a woman without having sex with her.
(Granted, it would have strange not to mention it to you, since I imagine you shared a home. Still, there were possible explanations less extreme than cheating, like it could have been a friend who lost their home and needed somewhere to stay, and to save their friend the embarrassment they didn't want to let other people know.)

ibcingu2 · 2016-07-04T02:48:29+00:00

I'm on her side. If you're that jealous & suspicious before you're married - I'd be afraid of how you'd be after.

blekmyr · 2016-07-04T03:39:53+00:00

I don't think this has ever been said but honestly: don't let crazy stick his dick in you

gunsmith123 · 2016-07-04T03:24:45+00:00

Hey OP, everyone is giving you shit for the way you handled the situation. In my opinion they aren't wrong, you really did handle this like a child.

Buuuuut you actually had the insight to post this here. You acknowledged that you fucked up, and that makes you a bigger man than a lot of those I know. A lot of people I know would live in the denial that "it's still their fault" or whatever. But you actually acknowledged the fact that you fucked up, and that is respectable.

Good luck to you OP, I hope you are more mature with your future relationships.

ShroudedSciuridae · 2016-07-04T11:35:13+00:00

Now she's getting all that dick you were scared she was getting before.

VoltGO · 2016-07-04T13:26:55+00:00

"Stacey is a girl's name"

Holy shit, lmfao. Your mind is gonna blow if you ever meet a dude named Kelly, isn't it?

batsy_of_gotham · 2016-07-04T04:12:33+00:00

I hope you realize that you are the crazy the rest of us try to avoid.

YouCannotDriveProper · 2016-07-04T02:27:49+00:00

Bro don't put shit on Facebook, it's cringey at any age. I got rid of Facebook for this exact reason.
It's all about communication my man

Trust_Me_Im_Right · 2016-07-04T04:19:24+00:00

Anyone who runs to Facebook for anything probably isn't mature enough for marriage

miralsad · 2016-07-04T09:36:20+00:00

You fucking deserve it

h47dh · 2016-07-04T09:58:19+00:00

ur a shitty person

mountaingrrl_8 · 2016-07-04T03:00:36+00:00

Publicly shaming someone is abusive. The amount of jealousy it takes to lie to the person you love, make up a story about extending your yrip, and then following her around is a serious breach of trust and a huge red flag for abusive behavior. It may be worth seeking professional help before unintentionally hurting the next woman you're with. Next time, maybe just talk to her like a healthy adult would.

SupermegaultraAIDS · 2016-07-04T03:36:35+00:00

Smart girl getting the fuck out of there before she married you. What kind of adult would do something so impulsive and childish without even speaking to their fucking partner about it first? A+ for putting your friend's assumptions and your insecurity before 2.5 years of loyalty.

WubbaLubbaDubbDubb · 2016-07-04T04:15:10+00:00

Holy Christ this is great. What are you, 16 years old? Should've used Snapchat instead.

Supyadyke · 2016-07-04T01:29:15+00:00

You done fucked up. Twat

YeatsInfection · 2016-07-04T12:14:32+00:00

Public shaming is like the death penalty: You can't take it back when you find out that you were wrong.

ingrown_hair · 2016-07-04T13:10:33+00:00

The monumental screw up aside, that you put it here shows you haven't learned anything. Someone's going to see it and tell her and mess up your chances of reconciliation. They going to know it's you, numnutz.

DabblesALot · 2016-07-04T13:11:23+00:00

Sounds to me like she dodged a bullet with you.

Phasta · 2016-07-04T13:40:21+00:00

I know you're probably pretty discouraged by all the negative comments on here but I just wanted to say if you really love her and want to be with her you should talk to her. You made a really stupid mistake but if you're not at least going to try to talk to her and let her know how much you regret what you did then that's an even bigger mistake. Also I'd suggest deleting your social media, you Don't need it and it's not doing you any favours.

GeraldBWilsonJr · 2016-07-04T02:01:05+00:00

You indeed fucked up, my friend. Try again.

ChiefMustache · 2016-07-04T02:24:35+00:00

You're a moron.

chum_bunkley · 2016-07-04T07:44:39+00:00

You posted your accusations to Facebook rather than just asking her?

Obviously you're not mature enough to get married but at least you'll be a "I dodged a bullet" story for the next guy she starts seeing

Lington · 2016-07-04T09:23:40+00:00

...you couldn't just ask her? If you were engaged, your communication skills should be better than that. Never assume you know anything, always ask.

Neil_Anblomi · 2016-07-04T09:46:33+00:00

How old are you? Publicly shaming her on Facebook prior to talking to her was a very adult thing to do. Man, your fiancé really dodged a bullet on that one.

I hope you either grow up or stay alone.

tootles420 · 2016-07-04T13:10:57+00:00

LOL you kinda deserve it, next time don't be a psycho 😂😂

funcircumcisedmen · 2016-07-04T13:40:22+00:00

I'm from the south, so I still think you did the right thing here.

BreakingGarrick · 2016-07-04T02:34:58+00:00

Damn, you got what you deserved.

Dhalphir · 2016-07-04T02:43:09+00:00

If you overreact this quickly to something like this, she probably dodged a bullet by not marrying you. Matter of time until you overreacted to something else.

Admiringcone · 2016-07-04T04:16:44+00:00

Lmao now you can post on those Askreddit threads about "redditors who were the psycho ex..whats your story".

Jemstar · 2016-07-04T02:49:36+00:00

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cyan_bomb · 2016-07-04T03:09:58+00:00

I don't think y'all realize how fake this one is. Normally I'm not the type to call BS, but you publicly shamed ON FACEBOOK the girl that you spent two and a half years with and was bound to marry in half a year, and she decided to end the whole thing, because of a guy that you had seen in a few pictures. Not once did it ever cross your mind to ask? Heading straight to Facebook, instead of your goddamn fiancé was the best thing you could come up with? BS

kpop_lvr · 2016-07-04T01:41:17+00:00

It's hard to feel sorry for you. Hope you live and learn and meet someone down the road when you can make better decisions.

pinkdreamery · 2016-07-04T03:51:22+00:00

"Relax, it's just a social experiment"

DoubleJesusPower · 2016-07-04T06:03:44+00:00

Yeah this marriage was going nowhere

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